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Manifesto on how to become anti-Peterson (by Tomas Lag?navi?ius)
At this moment, the most popular book is J. B. Peterson’s “12 rules for life”. In my opinion, it is written very well and matches contemporary neoconservative thinking paradigm. But it is not the only way of thinking. At least there are 8: nomadic, radical-revolutionary, contemporary-monk, and so on. So the purpose of my instruction is not to deny Peterson’s rules for life, but to propose one more alternative out of many.
The first rule: do not choose anything, take everything. Any choice creates a feeling of loss of what you did not choose. Unfulfilled desires and needs create depressive moods.
The second rule: lose sometimes so that you can feel a feeling of winning. In your life, there are many areas where you can feel being a winner. Find the least significant areas (it doesn’t mean you have to choose or reject something) and try to lose consciously, on purpose. Experience the feeling of defeat. Think about what you need to do more efficiently and better so that you are most likely to succeed in the areas that matter to you.
The third rule: don’t worry about yourself, enjoy life. When you focus too much on yourself, you pay less attention to what is going on around you. In other words, you lose opportunities. Sometimes you don’t have to get ready and organized. Sometimes you just have to act because there is a suitable situation for it. For example, events in Lithuania in 1989. Who was ready for them? When the situation changes, your preparation may not be needed.
The fourth rule: contact with people who can meet your needs, but not necessarily good ones. A good person does not mean that he/she is a professional. Distinguish between when you need a friend and when you need a specialist. A medical surgeon does not necessarily have to be a cute person but he/she must be a good specialist. Choose people who are professionals and can help you with any question or problem you may have. Of course, if you need a friend to chat, live together, and so on, it is better to choose a good person. However, the question remains “how much the friendship will be functional and how it will meet your needs?”. Non-functional kindness usually leads to compassion, but can it be the basis of friendship?
The fifth rule: if you want to be better than others, compare yourself to the best. Compare yourself with the best and defeat them. If you are comparing yourself to yourself and you are improving in minimal steps or not improving at all, or you just seem to be improving, you are engaged in self-deception because you exist in the context of others and your personal development may never grow into professionalism.
The sixth rule: let your kids experiment. Experiments have an element of surprise. We do not know what the result of the experiment will be. We must provide opportunities for children to explore and search. Of course, when there is an obvious danger to life, you should limit his/her activities and explain why. Sometimes we may not like his/her behavior, but it is only your personal opinion and the values you try to impose on him/her. Are our values universal? No. They always reflect reality subjectively. Allow your child develop subjectivity.
The seventh rule: it is more important to change the world than to set your house in order. If you are offered to organize your house at first and then change the world, then a man is trying to make you apolitical. He is trying to form an inferiority complex to you, because can you ever have you house in a perfect order? No. This means that you do not have the right to participate in the changing world. Live in your perfectionism, tidy up your apartment, do decoupage, do your gardening and so on. But don’t change the world.
The eight rule: do what you want because it still doesn’t make sense. All meanings occur only in your thinking based on your experience or ideological manipulation. Therefore, there is no need to look for meanings or suffer for them. You can either do or not. You can choose easy actions and results as well as difficult. So what? It still doesn’t make sense. So do the action first, and then look for the meaning why you did it. It’s easier. There is no need to doubt and choose.
The ninth rule: change the types of thinking anytime you want and how you want. There is no common truth in mythical, scientific, religious, economic, etc., thinking; they have their own logic, meanings and values. Use them all.
The tenth rule: listen to yourself more often than others. It is often more important in life that others would do for you what you want instead of asking what do they want. Because others do not want to choose either. And when you are told to choose one thing or another, they experience sadness that causes resistance to you. Therefore, when you choose for them, you help them saving them from the bitterness of choice.
The eleventh rule: speak in a way that is beneficial to you. Speech sometimes can be accurate, sometimes not. The more you speak, the more you limit your speaking and manipulation capabilities. When you take position on one issue or another, you become vulnerable. Do you want it?
The twelfth rule: don’t choose to be strong or weak. Both strong and weak men and women have different mechanisms of adaptation and survival, depending on the situation. Therefore, it is more important to look for situations to adapt than to be weak or strong.
The thirteenth rule: look at life from different perspectives. It is not necessary to look only at the good side of being. Sometimes it is important to look at the evil one. Learn to enjoy your bad side as well. Use the “eat and exercise” principle. Have fun twice–after eating and exercising.
The fourteenth rule: do not follow the rules listed above as this is also an option. Create (or do not create) your own rules and instructions for living in this world.
The anti-Peterson lifestyle allows us reject neoconservative seriousness, meaning-seeking, and choices. This lifestyle forms a post-matrix person allow him/ her to have many “selves” and not be limited to one thing. So I wish you to let all the “selves” manifest and to be realized.
P.S. I do not recommend breaking the law as punishment can limit your self-manifestation. However, everyone decides for themselves.
P. S. P. S. I wonder which of your “selves” will make the decision.